If you don’t like what is being said change the conversation. If you can’t change it, change your attitude but don’t complain. If you don’t like someone’s story then write your own. Nobody can teach me who I am or tell me what to do with myself. You can describe parts of me, but who I am and what I need is something I had to find out myself.


Georgette Monnou nominated me for the Sunflower Award and I am so grateful, that she thought of me. 

Take a look at her blogpost over here:

This is new territory for me. Since, I have never considered this space as a blog, might just begin to do so from now on.

The Rules for the Competition/Award are as follows: 

1. Share 11 facts about yourself

2. Answer the questions set by the blogger that nominated you

3. Nominate 11 bloggers

4. Set 7 questions for nominated blogger. 

I will be following rules 1 to 3, but with a twist since I am not really entering the competition, simply honoring the nomination. For the twist, I will simply list 11 blogs that I think everyone should visit.

So here we go! #11ThingsAboutMe

  1. My full name is Shalom.O.E.Ayidu, the initials stand for my middle names which are intensely Igbo names.  
  2. My high school years were spent in Ghana and Togo. I had so much fun on a school trip to Ghana and decided to stay afterwards. With amazing parents, you can do anything
  3. I have oats,apples and 2 slices of toast for breakfast most mornings. 
  4. I welcome any opportunity to meet new people. New people usually come along with a chance to explore a different lifestyle.
  5.  I am currently learning French, the Doulingo app serves as my daily mentor.
  6. Writing for me is a breath of fresh air, I write from time to time mainly very fictional stuff.
  7. I enjoy most genres of music, but honey, there isn’t anything quite like Jazz.
  8. I am always willing to go see a new country, even if it means swimming across oceans, lol maybe not , but you get the point.
  9. From time to time, I enjoy the act of talking to myself.
  10.  When I meet people who I have a deep connections with,  I’m simply want to keep them around.

#Questions Answered:  

What is the best post you have read on my blog and why? (If you have featured as a Guest Writer on my blog, you cannot choose your own post)

My favorite post will have to be #RealTalkwithGeorge post about Georgette’s soundcloud talkshow. Nothing better than someone with talent who can unapologetically promote their own work. I listened every week while it was on ,so do bring it back for the masses. 

 Find the post here:

2. Why did you start your blog?

 I started my blog during my first year of university, I really wanted a place to access all the ideas that resonated with me on tumblr and share my own thoughts also.

3. If you were asked to replay a certain moment in your life which would it be?

 Haha, Probably the moment at JCole’s concert when I grabbed his hand.

4. What do your parents call you at home?

My parents call me Shalom, just like every one else. But when I’m an exceptionally great daughter, my parents come up with all sorts of lovely names for me to go by.

5. Who is your celebrity crush and why?

My celebrity crush would have to be Viola Davis, The woman is just a show stopping kind of performer. I would watch anything she’s involved in, simply because she has a thing for meaningful projects. 

6. What is your dream holiday destination?

The Great Barrier Reef Islands in Queensland, Australia.

 7. If you were asked to represent one brand, which would it be and why? 

It  would have to be Links of London, great jewelry, lasts a lifetime. 


Glad I got to do this. :)

To simply be and exist without any fear. 

+ Unknown

Waist beads



Traditionally worn under clothes by African women, waist beads have several different meanings. Ranging from rites of passage, to enticing your husband to healing and rejuvenation. The art of adorning ones self has been practiced since the beginning of time.

In Egypt, waist beads were…

Forgive immediately and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. Forgiveness is freedom. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.
There are still some wonderful people left in this world. They are diamonds in the rough, but they’re around. You’ll find them when you fall down, they’re the ones who pick you up, who don’t judge, and you had to fall down to see them. When you get up again, remember who your true friends are.

"Ay five years I’ll probably laugh at this" - Cole


“For me, a woman who is absorbed in her work, who does not care about gaining one’s favour, strong yet subtle at the same time, is essentially more seductive. The more she hides and abandons her femininity, the more it emerges from the very heart of her existence.” 
—Yohji Yamamoto


“For me, a woman who is absorbed in her work, who does not care about gaining one’s favour, strong yet subtle at the same time, is essentially more seductive. The more she hides and abandons her femininity, the more it emerges from the very heart of her existence.” 

—Yohji Yamamoto

(Source: doxandthegreyhound)

x Kendrick Lamar  : Faith 

Close some doors. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead somewhere.
Nothing proves that you love someone more, than mentioning them in your prayers.
A person who thinks all the time has nothing to think about except thoughts. So he loses touch with reality, and lives in a world of illusion.
We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.
Don’t let anyone pressure you into letting them back into your space. Your space, your terms. If you’re not ready, you’re not ready and that’s OK. Readiness comes with time and faith. You’ll get there.

The most expensive thing to buy is a place in this world, it comes with the price of a soul.